Well hello stranger ...
It has been two years since I posted anything fresh on this blog. When I moved over to head ♥ heart ♥ health many of you came with me but some of you stayed behind. I am sad to have lost touch with you.
I thought I would pop back here to day to give you an update on what has happened in the past two years and what is happening in the future.
I won my battle with disordered eating and through the journey to self-love and authenticity I discovered that the person I was married to was wrong for me. I wanted all the passion, excitement and connection of real love. I had an affair, I left my husband and started internet dating. I found an amazing guy but just ten days after we met my husband committed suicide.
It hasn't been easy to reconcile all of this stuff, but I have come out the other side of all this stronger and better. I have learned many lessons along the way.
My expertise is in helping women in their thirties and forties who have made the decision to honour their bodies by not dieting any more and have discovered that their relationships aren't serving them. I know all about the feelings of loss and guilt that flood in when we have to let these relationships go. I also know how important it is to seek a connection with someone that is inspirational and nurturing. I'm talking about how to find real love for the first time.
So if you are at all interested in increasing your self love, living authentically, dealing with loss and change in your life and finding real love then I would love to have you as part of my community. We are just getting started so your input will be highly valuable. My first project is a free information product that will help you solve some of the problems that keep you awake at night.
I want you connect with you again and have you as a head ♥ heart ♥ health insider. All I am asking you to do right now is to give me your email address. I can then start interacting with you in a way that is meaningful and helpful.
Let's pick up where we left off two years ago. I've missed you. Let's catch up soon.
Recent posts from head ♥ heart ♥ health
Sunday, 2 October 2011
Tuesday, 5 January 2010
At least two people in this world love you so much they would die for you.
At least fifteen people in this world love you in some way.
The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
You mean the world to someone.
Wednesday, 30 December 2009
This is a guest post from Kate A originally posted on the Open Forum. With her permission I have posted it here so we can all share her beautiful writing and honest reflection.
If you leave enough comments we might persuade her to start her own blog? If you would like to guest post on my blog, please see the guidelines here.
I was laying in bed this morning and my son saw the box of mixed choccies that I was given for Christmas. He brought them over and we lay together and ate some. I didn’t think about it. I enjoyed sampling some with him.
Then…yes, then…the voice began: “Um, that is off plan. You need to do a run and all this extra lard is stopping you from trying harder.” Can you guess what happened next? Uh huh, I stopped and felt awful. Those beautiful 10 mins were wiped away in seconds.
Stage 1 ~ Pre-Contemplation ~ The Creature and the Computer
Most diet experts tell us to think of the body as a computer programmed to take instructions from the mind. Only the mind acts like a machine, your body is not a computer, it is a creature.
Your body speaks creature and your mind speaks computer. The Body Whispering exercise forces your computer self to find the creature words for “I come in peace”. The medium for this communication is not thinking, but feeling.
Allowed to function as nature intended, your creature-self will stop eating when two conditions are met (1) it senses that you aren’t hungry any more (not that you’re full, but that you’re NOT hungry) and (2) it’s confident there will be no food shortage in the foreseeable future.
Tuesday, 29 December 2009
Sometimes you stumble upon the thread at the end of the scarf that once pulled, unravels the whole garment.
This describes me exactly ~
Most of us former dieters are afraid of being deprived. We believe that trying to lose weight means that we will be deprived of joy, connection, foods we love, or a sense of belonging.
Many diets that restrict us from eating in a normal way exacerbate these feelings. We have to prepare or order tasteless food. We can’t join in with cocktails or dessert and we can’t relax because we have to stay in control to prevent a slip in our diet.
Unfortunately, to many of us, this is a familiar feeling. We may have grown up feeling disconnected from people around us in our families or in our schools. We use diets to repeat this pattern; isolation ensues. We believe deprivation feels awful. Deprivation from food is one thing, but deprivation from love and connection is worse.